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2020

Jesse

Musson

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In this article, I describe what demasculation is and how to prevent it from being traumatic, and I critique the "love-is-love" mentality.
Made eunuch by others

Let’s have a look at the following Bible verse:

Matthew 19:12
“For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”

In Dutch, we call this phenomenon of eunuchs ‘demasculation’. I can tell you exactly what this means because I myself have been demasculated. From the title of this article, you can tell which category of demasculated people I belong to, but be sure to read on.

It is important that at some point a young man moves in the vicinity of his father. This allows him to let go of the mother and teaches him to be a man, following his father’s example, and later his own peer group. He can then direct his urges towards women, so he can enter into a heterosexual relationship with a woman, in order to eventually procreate. But if these urges he directs toward women in the form of anger are structurally rejected by the father, because the mother cannot deal with the child’s anger for example, then something distinctive happens. The boy is demasculated, and this is exactly what happened to me. You start to identify with the woman and a reversal takes place between the subject (you yourself) and the object with whom you want to connect (the woman), and therefore you become that object. This is what happened to me. If this also happens way too early in your life, making it traumatic, you will always want to resist what has been done to you. This manifested itself in a desire to possess women, and to have nothing to do with men. I also suffered from autogynephilia, the excitement when you imagine to have a woman’s body. While in fact I wanted nothing more than to feel like a man again, like I did when I finished my first clinical therapy. (I identified with men back then, but I needed my aggression for that). So this condition with autogynephilia was a misdirected form of heterosexuality. Over the years, my ability to become aroused continued to decline (a result of my trauma), and I slowly unlearned my desire to possess women more and more the more mature I became. My relationships with women in the past were of a ‘lesbian’ nature, as my psychologist put it to me. This infuriated me tremendously, because it was not what I wanted. It was done to me, I had no control over it.
So I fit into the category of “made eunuch by others” if we look back at that Bible text again.

Being demasculated is not the same as homosexuality. Not every demasculated person is homosexual, and not every homosexual person is demasculated. Becoming demasculated caused my sexuality to change, something I had great difficulty with. Because with me, the demasculation was traumatic, and it doesn’t always have to be. It’s all about how much disapproval you experienced in your childhood. And whether you had enough reserves to be able to handle this. I received aggression and disapproval at a much too young age. And that took place structurally throughout my youth. So that’s why I resisted it so much. Now that I have finally accepted this demasculation, I am no longer troubled by autogynephilia. Now I myself choose towards whom I direct my feelings. I don’t feel like a man, but neither do I feel like a woman. I am just myself and that is good and I don’t need anyone’s approval for that.

I want to tell the same to gay men or lesbian women who demand approval for their feelings. It is very immature to demand this of others. Ideally, you take responsibility for your own feelings, including your sexual feelings. You can say, “Being gay is not a choice,” and be a slave to these instincts. But you can also stand behind your feelings, and say, “This is what I choose!” and understand where it comes from. Not everyone has an understanding of the influences that have worked on them in childhood. I do, thanks to several years of therapy. Ideally, you just decide who you direct your feelings toward and it is indeed a choice.

So when you understand people can influence the development of the sexual identity of their children later in life, you will realize it is not convenient to raise your son as a girl, for example, and not teaching him to be a boy. As I’ve said many times before, the world to a child is still black and white, and so they clearly need to learn the physical as well as the psychological difference between men and women. So it’s important to teach your child how to be a man and how to be a woman. The problem is, everyone has their own interpretation of that, and that makes it difficult. Some think it’s about certain outward appearances such as clothing or makeup, some think it’s about certain toys, but in the end it’s all about one thing: you as a boy not being prevented to let go of your mother, because this is necessary to feel like a man. You can only let go of someone when your negative feelings are permitted towards that person. So if, as a father, you see your son ranting at his mother, don’t disapprove of his feelings. But try to start the conversation about why he is angry. If it happens at a very young age, that won’t be exactly easy, but especially at a young age your child should have nothing to do with disapproval. You are so much more powerful than your child, and sometimes a small time-out is enough or sternly addressing him with the words “I see that you are angry, but I do want you to listen to me now.” Because the child is seen, you implicitly are letting him know that it is okay for him to have negative feelings towards you and nothing bad will happen then. These are essential things for the development of your child’s sexual identity later in life. Because the negative feelings from childhood, are nothing but urges and how they are dealt with by the parents, is a blueprint for the interaction with your lover in your later life, and the excitement that comes with that.

There are also eunuchs who were born that way, as the Bible text says. These are presumably people who have had control over their urges from an early age, and where this is not necessarily caused by disapproval, as in the case of the eunuchs who have been made eunuch by others.
The third type of eunuch, is the ones voluntarily living like eunuchs. These people want to follow the path of Christ, and not be led by the lusts of the flesh, and want to focus on what they came here on Earth for, to do the Great Work. It shows tremendous strength, and spiritual maturity to walk this path willingly, and to rid yourself of all immoral impulses within yourself. Cause that’s what the Bible means with the concept of ‘eunuch’. Remember Revelation 14:4-5 about the 144,000:

“These are those who did not defile themselves with women, for they remained virgins. They follow the Lamb wherever he goes. They were purchased from among mankind and offered as firstfruits to God and the Lamb. No lie was found in their mouths; they are blameless.”

Virgins are often made out to be weaklings who can’t ‘score’ a partner, but some of them choose voluntarily to live celibate. There is enormous power in this. It’s a different kind of strength than the people who sleep with anybody. Some people call that a talent. I say that’s the easiest thing to do, especially if you’re somewhat decent-looking or have a smooth talk. Some people have perfected their skills in the game of love and seduction. The internet is full of coaches who will teach you the best manipulation techniques to score as many women as possible. It is absolute garbage that I want nothing more to do with.

For example, I saw an episode of a TV show where a good-looking man and a good-looking woman were put together. The level of romance was very high with them. They were everything they expect from a relationship to each other, they said, and this within a few days of being together. After the shoot, however, they broke up almost immediately. Infatuation is really irrational. And this kind of ‘love’ is so fake! It’s about asking each other’s opinion of each other constantly and it’s one big romantic soupy mess based on nothing. First some candles! Then some flowers! Some compliments here and there! And then to comfort her! In the end, you have sex once, it’s disappointing, and that’s it. Off you go, looking for the next victim! This has nothing to do with love. It has to do with moral decay. It is because you are still in old patterns and you can’t accept possible rejection. If you really care for each other, then you help someone to leave these patterns behind, so you can start serving a higher purpose. Real love is about putting your money where your mouth is, even when things are disappointing. And when an experience is disappointing, doing everything possible to make it (and each other) better as far as possible. But many people are also full of unmet needs, and use the other person to cross off their list of needs. In the end, they have everything they want, and even then they feel empty…

The ‘controversial’ Hungarian Law (use deepl.com to translate) which our prime-minister Rutte got so incredibly teary-eyed about (such a pretender!), is nothing more than a law that protects children from pedophiles and prevents the encouragement of homosexuality or the encouragement of gender identities other than those corresponding to birth sex. Rutte is probably a blackmailed pedophile (see also my article Gruesome truths) and feigns grief for this law, because he wants nothing more than to make abnormality the norm, under the guise of ‘love’. He knows that in doing so, he may be able to restore his collapsed image somewhat. It doesn’t help almost all media outlets parrot each other it to be an anti-gay law, because it is not. Prime Minister of Hungary Orbán has in his past fought for the rights of homosexuals. He only wants to prevent homosexuality and all those other excesses (including pedosexuality) to be made the norm, and I totally agree with this. It should be enough for you to be able to sleep with someone of the same sex. All the other bullshit around it should be finished, especially towards children. Forcing others to approve of your identity is absolutely weak and has already done far too much damage in society. As I said earlier, if you as a man have experienced disapproval of your masculine feelings of aggression in your youth and direct your feelings towards men, then in later life you often compulsively want approval for these homosexual feelings. So here lies a serious task for parents. Rejection of your feelings is something you should only have to deal with when you already have a solid foundation. Not as a small child. So be warned!

I know several couples with children in my circle of friends and aquaintances. One couple has told their daughter that she can also marry a girl later. The child now wants to marry a girl. I know another couple. They make their little boy walk in heels and put tights and pink pants on him. And his little sister looks like a tomboy. And I know another couple, who don’t care if their son says he wants to marry a boy. It’s an epidemic! That’s how bad it is! People get off on turning that around in their children. Making their boys feminine and their girls masculine. Children are also being groomed to follow their own little will. And none of those parents correct their child, because it’s all supposed to be normal nowadays. Love is love. But I absolutely do not agree with this. Love is not love. Love is only love when it fits into the Plan of God. And that is all about Truth. And not teaching this truth to your child and letting them go their way in following their own little will, will be disastrous for humanity. People have duties and a responsibility to each other. Unfortunately, nowadays people pump boundless love into their children in which morality fades, and they forget the other side. The side of presenting reality to your child. The side of administering order! I see it happening all the time, when parents give choices to their too young of a child. “Do you want this or that? Or maybe this then? Or rather that?” No, YOU decide what to give your child. You must first set an example and let him follow what you want, before he will develop a responsible mind of his own. The same goes for marriage and sexuality. First you introduce your child to your norm (so you need to have norms!) and if your child deviates from that in later life, then that is his responsibility and he does not need your approval for that. Finito!
Watch this YouTube clip and see how much trouble people have telling each other the truth. They go along with the collective psychosis of feelings over facts. It is unbelievable how people are indoctrinated with this kind of nonsense.

I do realize that I am not going to win the popularity prize by writing this, because it is ‘not done’ to criticize this these days. It is one of the many opinions that everyone around you seems to have adopted out of sheer identity weakness. Never having thought about it, they have automatically succumbed to the massive pressure and propaganda that has been poured out on humanity, especially here in the West. The advantage of which is, that all people in that way know there are other sexualities. And perhaps that decreases the violence towards gays, or at least I hope it does. I already described in my article No one is born… that perhaps it should first be rammed down the throats of all of us, so that it is accepted in totality and the violence stops, and then we learn, you can also be critical of certain behaviors of homosexuals or transgenders, in a loving way, and that indeed you can have an influence on its emergence in children, and then also gain control over it. If someone is an adult, of course he makes his own decision about that.

One problem is that with some gays, being gay is the only thing they bring to the table, and a certain segment of gays want everyone to be gay so they have more sex or life partners to choose from. They also identify with being gay, rather than just seeing it as an experience, of a much larger and more comprehensive consciousness. Moreover, they want to get married, and have children, and this is summed up under the guise of ‘rights’. The ‘rights’ of homosexuals. Perhaps you should realize as a homosexual that some things are not for you if you choose the same sex. It can’t get any crazier these days: For example, a woman choosing a woman to have a relationship with, then they need a sperm donor for a baby, many times a complete stranger. Then one woman prefers to have a man’s body, but he carries the baby after the transition. It is a baby boy. The little boy grows up with a woman with a “man’s body” as the father and the other woman as the mother. The woman with the ‘male body’ asks the little boy if he wants to be a girl, because he’d rather play with dolls. The little boy gets puberty blockers just before puberty, and keeps a high-pitched voice and then chooses to get a ‘woman’s body,’ but he does fancy girls, because he didn’t have a mother who played the male role very well. And meanwhile, the people watching must think it’s all well! Don’t you dare criticize it! Should I go on to where this will lead within a few generations? It’s maddening! People who want and do this kind of thing and even start encouraging it need to take a good look at what they are doing. And I don’t give a damn what people think of my opinion. It is the height of selfishness, to claim all kinds of rights, which are not compatible with the natural survival of man. Fortunately, there are also children who grew up in a family with two fathers or two mothers, who do not choose the path of their parents and recognize that this is not the way to go.

There are many other limitations that nature imposes on us. And we humans try to outwit nature every time, but it is not without karmic consequences! Nature always finds a way to thwart people in their selfish will so that they eventually harmonize with God’s Will. Perhaps I should comfort myself with the fact that we will all learn our lessons spiritually, and that is what matters. The current form of humanity is probably not forever anyway. Spiritually, however, we will continue to evolve, and we will take on many more forms, to live through this developmental path!

posted on Jul 4, 2021
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